Once a friend, now a stranger.



I just think that it is funny how you can be someone's friend for the longest of times and then BAM you're not friends anymore! They did something that you did not like and now you don't see them in the same light. There are many friends that have come and gone in my life. Looking back I can see that we broke up due to them making mistakes and me not liking that they made the wrong choice. I don't know if it is just me who does this, but moments like this show us people for who they really are. 

What is a friend?

According to Google a friend is 'a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations.' Throughout life we are constantly making friends and even though there are benefits,  there are also downfalls to them. Yes other people are fun to hang out with however they may not always have the best intentions. 

There are rules in order for you to become my friend. First you are my acquaintance (a word I learnt from playing the Sims) and from then on you can either become my friend and progress to becoming my best friend or you can be my friend and just stay in your lane. However, what I want to discuss in particular is having friends that have and are sliding into the position of acquaintance.

I feel as if I am always on the recruit for new friends. I don't mind going out by myself but sometimes I just want to have friend that has the same or similar interests as me. But I don't always want to be on the lookout for someone new. Why can't some of my current friends do things that I am interested in? Why am I always the one that is sticking out my neck and forever getting nothing in return?

I believe that some friends are only meant to be here for a season, whether they were just meant to stay as a university friend or someone you used to hang around with at school, not all friendships are meant to last forever. Some friends are easier to let go then others, I know it sounds bad, but some people are toxic and can also spread that negative vibe around you, and lets be truthful nobody wants that. We hang on to the friends that drag us down and the ones that are meant to be lifting us up, we let go of. It is time to stop.



I am in a similar situation now. I keep on seeing red flags go off with this one particular person but I'm not sure what to do. Am I meant to speak to them on a level and tell them what I feel? Or do I slowly but surely cut them out? Please let me know your thoughts and opinions in the comments below. 

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